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It was not only about the money, but the psychological torment I had to endure every single day of those four years.

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When my father died four months prior to my O’ Levels exam, I did not know that my life was going to change forever. Before he died, I did not know the value of education. Life was so easy in every aspect. Everything was there in my life even before I asked for it. After I finished my O’ Levels, my mother started pressurizing me to get married. Since I was very young, I could convince her that I would get married as soon as I finished my A’ Levels (my motivation – all my friends were doing it). I had to maintain all ‘A’s to convince my family so that I could pursue my bachelors. I chose a private university and again convinced my mother for the last time that after I complete my graduation I would definitely get married.

During those four years, every single time I asked my family for the tuition fees, I was dreaded by the fact that I would have to listen to so many taunts for not getting married and pursuing higher studies. During Eid, the only time I even dared to buy new clothes, I was given a choice of either getting the tuition fees or buying new clothes. I would always choose the first option. It was not only about the money, but the psychological torment I had to endure every single day of those four years. With the blessing of Allah, I graduated top of my class. I even got the opportunity to work for three years as a Lecturer in my university. And now I have been given a fellowship to pursue PhD at a north American university. I guess this is how reverse psychology works, the more you are asked not to pursue something, the more attracted you are towards it.

I am proud that in spite of all the pressure from the society and the only option of getting married to someone, I chose a different path in life and was successful doing it. The moral of my story is, the harder life seems there’s always a way out of the difficult situations. #ShareToAware

When my father died four months prior to my O’ Levels exam, I did not know that my life was going to change forever. Before he died, I did not know the value of education. Life was so easy in every aspect. Everything was there in my life even before I asked for it. After I finished my O’ Levels, my mother started pressurizing me to get married. Since I was very young, I could convince her that I would get married as soon as I finished my A’ Levels (my motivation – all my friends were doing it). I had to maintain all ‘A’s to convince my family so that I could pursue my bachelors. I chose a private university and again convinced my mother for the last time that after I complete my graduation I would definitely get married.
During those four years, every single time I asked my family for the tuition fees, I was dreaded by the fact that I would have to listen to so many taunts for not getting married and pursuing higher studies. During Eid, the only time I even dared to buy new clothes, I was given a choice of either getting the tuition fees or buying new clothes. I would always choose the first option. It was not only about the money, but the psychological torment I had to endure every single day of those four years. With the blessing of Allah, I graduated top of my class. I even got the opportunity to work for three years as a Lecturer in my university. And now I have been given a fellowship to pursue PhD at a north American university. I guess this is how reverse psychology works, the more you are asked not to pursue something, the more attracted you are towards it.

I am proud that in spite of all the pressure from the society and the only option of getting married to someone, I chose a different path in life and was successful doing it. The moral of my story is, the harder life seems there’s always a way out of the difficult situations. #ShareToAware

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